Mangda - leeching of their girlfriends
Posted 24 February 2007 - 09:08
I personally can't imagine that they really love their girlfriends, and are with them only for the money they receive from them. Money which they might very well spend on fucking other women, or use to support a drughabit.
A lot of these guys work in the same bars as their girlfriends, often as a DJ or tout, or they just hang around outside on their motorbikes (bought by their girlfriends of course).
So, if they are this bad, why do the girls tolerate them?
I don't really have an answer to this, although I do have an assumption. I think that the majority of the bargirls does not really enjoy sleeping with farangs, especially if they are old, overweight, drunk and/or smelly (no offence if you fit that category). They can not really relate to us farangs because of the language-, culture- and often times age-gap.
However, they do want affection, want to be able to talk to a person who can understand them, go out with people in their same age group, and maybe, just maybe even get into a real relationship and have a normal life. And this is where the mangda's come in.
I think that even though the girls are working in the farang-oriented sex-industry and all say "I no like man Thai", that the reverse is true. Most would probably prefer a Thai guy over a farang. Why? Because there will be no cultural and language barrier, and she will probably be more physically attracted to him.
The problem though is that most Thai men would never consider marrying a bargirl, unless they are themselves just as far down the social ladder and might consider her as a meal ticket out of poverty (similar to how a bargirl might look at a relationship with a farang). The kind of guys that work in the sex-industry (either as a tout or DJ, or even as a male prostitute) would certainly fit in this category.
With this in mind, it isn't that surprising that a girl who sleeps with farangs to make money, but is not attracted to them and still has hopes of one day settling down and raising a family, might get attracted to a guy who is in the same low social standing as her, and is probably a lot more attractive to her than her farang customers.
This guy is also most likely gonna be really nice to her, treat her well, and make her all kind of promises. It isn't until later that he will show his true colors, but by then leaving him might not be that easy anymore.
The girl also probably knows that he is not the best catch she could hope for, but in her eyes he is probably one of the better options. Certainly better than marrying a much older farang and having to leave her family behind.
Anyway, all of this is just MHO, and since I am neither a bargirl nor a mangda, I could be completely off target here :)
Posted 03 March 2007 - 19:43
Would enjoy hearing from other board members who might have some actual insight into how bar girls and their husbands/boyfriends think (if that's possible - ha!).
Posted 04 March 2007 - 05:35
Posted 04 March 2007 - 10:50
Posted 04 March 2007 - 10:52
Posted 04 March 2007 - 12:39
From my observations I would say only 20% of the girls have a regular Thai boyfriend. Like you say they are often involved in the periphery of the industry, tout, DJ, motorcycle taxi guy etc etc
At one of my bars two out of the 15 girls that work there regularly have farang boy friends who they live with whilst working at the bar beer.
This I personally have the most problem with as there have been instances where they have bowled up to the bar drunk causing problems out of jealousy, the farang BF that is.
The farang BF are both youngish , mid twenties and from England. They are both banned from the bars and if I see them loitering nearby I will see them off in no uncertain terms.
The Thai BF stay away and show no interest in turning up.
My experience is limited solely to Samui, all the girls are from Issarn.
Posted 04 March 2007 - 19:55
Posted 04 March 2007 - 20:30
Each of the girls I've know was so different in so many ways, the only common denominator was they were 100% female and cute(according to my own definitions!).
Posted 05 March 2007 - 00:12
Posted 05 March 2007 - 14:33
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